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๐ Theres Knowledge below the fold on this post...๐ I can't thank everyone enough for all the support over the past 2 days. ๐
For every comment on the book & business posts, there have been many DM's. They range everywhere from ๐ supportive to well ๐ not-supportive ๐คฃ.
But every... single... conversation... has been valuable.
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Now, let's chat about "putting ourselves out there." Several of the conversations that I've had go something like this (๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ฌ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ข๐ง๐ฌ๐ข๐ ๐ก๐ญ-๐๐๐ฌ๐๐, ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐๐ง ๐๐๐ญ๐ฎ๐๐ฅ ๐๐จ๐ง๐ฏ๐๐ซ๐ฌ๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง. ๐๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐๐จ๐ง๐ฏ๐๐ซ๐ฌ๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ ๐ ๐ก๐๐ฏ๐ ๐๐ซ๐ ๐๐จ๐ง๐๐ข๐๐๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐๐ฅ, unless ๐ฉ๐๐ซ๐ญ๐ข๐๐ข๐ฉ๐๐ง๐ญ'๐ฌ ๐๐ข๐ซ๐๐๐ญ ๐๐ฉ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐ฏ๐๐ฅ)
>> ๐Them: What made you want to write a book and start coaching?
>> ๐ค Me: The desire to share my ๐๐ฑ๐ฉ๐๐ซ๐ข๐๐ง๐๐๐ฌ and experiences I've observed from leaders around me. To learn from others and distill those learnings for the betterment of others. To see the many "๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐" that happen in every coaching conversation, and the literal stress drain from people when they come to a decision on the next steps. To leave a "๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐" impact and to attempt to leave the world just a little better than when I joined it.
>> ๐ Them: How do you know ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐๐ซ๐ ๐ซ๐ข๐ ๐ก๐ญ ๐๐ง๐จ๐ฎ๐ ๐ก to put stuff out there?
>> ๐ค Me: I don't; I have to be vulnerable and trust my observations and the research I've done. With the speed at which information flows these days, someone will tell me pretty quickly if I'm wrong. This goes into the feedback loop, and we do the ๐ง๐ต๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฒ ๐'๐; we 1๏ธโฃ absorb, 2๏ธโฃ adapt, 3๏ธโฃ actualize. I made that up, but it works. Pretty well, actually, Thanks I think I'll put that in the book.
>> ๐ Them: ๐ค๐ฎ๐ซ
>> ๐ค Me: If we didn't put ourselves out there, at least speak a bit. Then, there would be no growth for anyone.
>> ๐ Them: There are so many leadership, management, and self-help books; why would anyone read yours?
>> ๐ค Me: They might not. In fact, I probably won't sell a single copy. โ๐งโโ๐บโโ๐นโ โ๐นโโ๐ญโโ๐ฆโโ๐นโโโ๐ธโ โ๐ดโโ๐ฐโ. It will build a foundation for me to position my coaching. It helps me ground myself in my leadership beliefs. But I will say, with all the books out there, people still have problems and need help. Maybe this book will help them somehow.
There will always be the curious, the offended, the naysayer, the detractors. There will be those who try to make you "The Noise." We can't make everyone happy, but let's try to continue positively impacting the world anyway.
1. Absorb It.
2. Adapt for It or Avoid it if you disagree entirely.
3. Actualize it.
(๐ง yeah, that's a good framework; I'm going to use that a lot. DON'T STEAL IT!!! COPYRIGHT© RIGHT HERE RIGHT NOW!!!)
Don't let it wear you down. Be you, not someone else. Find your ๐๐ฆ๐ฉ๐๐๐ญ, and ignore the Noise. Put yourself out there too.
Till next time... โ๏ธ
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